Fun With Fingering

Do you remember the different “bases” of sexual experience? First base is kissing and groping, third is oral pleasure and intercourse is a home run. But what of second base? That progression in the sexual journey is fingering! Hands below the belt. And can you remember the first time your hands went down there? Remember what an amazing sensation it was to touch someone else’s genitals? This is one of our most common and life-long sexual activities, one that will always excite and please.

No scratches, please

One of the first things to consider when you plan to touch someone internally, is the state of your fingernails. Feeling the sharp scratch of someone’s unkempt nail on your insides can put a quick halt to any sexy times that are happening. If you are planning to slide your digits into someone’s vagina or anus at some point, be sure to give your nails a proper trim and file. Keeping your talons in good shape can ensure you do not encounter unfortunate scratching, which can be dangerous. Any internal wound has the potential of infection.

If you find yourself in a spontaneous sexual situation and fingering seems like a great way to spend your time, but you’re unsure if your nails are up to snuff, slip on a pair of latex gloves. As long as you don’t have razors on the ends of your fingers that tatter them to bits, gloves will protect your partner’s sensitive bits from your sharp bits.

Can I keep my long nails?

Of course, some people really like have their nails long. And it doesn’t matter if those nails are perfectly manicured daily, long nails can accidentally jab your partner’s innards. Fingering with long nails is a bit of a sexual art form that people do learn over time. How hard to thrust, how not to curl, how to ensure your partner doesn’t recoil in fear when you cock your finger in that “come hither” pose.

However, there is a simple solution if you like to keep your nails long, but you also really hope to get inside your partner some more. Simply whip out those latex gloves again and add a cotton ball or two into the end of each finger. This way, when you pull the glove on, the cotton will cover the ends of each finger and ensure the nail doesn’t do any damage.

Wet is best

Another key to fantastic fingering is ensuring your partner is plenty moist and lubed up! Whether you’re touching ass or vagina, don’t go diving in there too fast. In the case of playing with a vulva, try to tease each other and warm each other up. Foreplay and touching elsewhere can go a long way to turning someone on enough and making them nice and wet. And, of course, with anal play, be sure to have lots of your partner’s favourite lube on hand.

And then... take things slow. Nobody wants a bit of touching and then three fingers jammed right up in themselves! Caress the outer skin, make it tingle with pleasure. When you start to move inside, go slowly, gently. Take one finger and ease it slowly in and out. Go just a bit in at first and then increase the depth of penetration gradually. If you know your partner will want more, you can begin adding more fingers, and keep going until they are wriggling in finger-soaking excitement!