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How To Introduce Kink Into Your Relationship

How To Introduce Kink Into Your Relationship

New relationships are just awesome! That beginning time, when your hands are all over each other, when you can think of nothing more than that person and the sexy times you’re going to have. It can be so hot and so intense!

At the same time, it is easy to fall into thoughts and fears during this time. We all experience insecurities and worries when we embark on a new relationship. We wonder if we’ll measure up to the past, if we’re making the right impression and if the sex will always be as hot as it is right in the beginning.

Another worry some people have is how their sexual desires and interests will fit into their new coupling. If you are kinky and into some types of sex and lifestyle that aren’t of the mainstream, how will that play out with your new bae? Will they like it? Will they be into it? Or, at the worst, will they completely hate your needs?

Not being sexually compatible can certainly be a deal breaker - regardless of how long the relationship has been going on. Hopefully, through communication, the two of you can talk about what you each crave and hunger for in bed (or elsewhere!). But if it happens that you’re just starting out and do not know each other’s personal pervy proclivities, then you really do need to have some talks. Of course, that can be tough and how do you bring up that you are really into licking toes or rope bondage or piercing?

Here are some ways to share your sexy desires in a way that is non-threatening and discussion-starting:

 

Porn/Erotica

Well, before you load up your favourite porn or begin reading from your smutty collection, first you need to open that conversation up. If you’re both good to go with dirty movies and adult literature, then they are a great way to introduce your particular kink. If you’re the one picking the porn you’re going to snuggle up with, include some that casually introduces your particular pleasure. But don’t go overboard with a 2 hour collection of clips of that specific act. Instead, find a film that includes your interest and when it comes up, note that you think it is hot. Or say you’d like to try that with your partner. It is best not to go into how much you’ve enjoyed it in the past, that could stimulate jealousy issues. Instead, focus on how much you would like to get kinky with him or her specifically.

 

Sex Product Website

Sex toy sites (like Cherry Banana) are a great way to feel a partner out while at the same time feeling each other up! Get comfortable in bed and pull the laptop into a nice spot. Be close and keep your hands on each other while you shop around the site, checking out all of the hot additions you could make to your tickle trunk. When you casually cruise to a product used in your kink, again, mention how much you’d love to use that toy with her or him. Make them feel special and adored. If your kink is crucial and essential to your sexual and personal happiness, you will have time to outline that. But in the beginning, it is better to ease your partner in.

 

Sex Party

Hitting up a sex or fetish party might be a little advanced, but that depends on your particular relationship. If you’re both pretty out there with your sexuality, but you haven’t disclosed how hot certain activities make you, a party can be just the ticket! There is nothing better than a firsthand experience for understanding and considering something new to try and watching others writhe and moan in pleasure is a wonderful icebreaker.

About Jon Pressick
Jon Pressick

Jon Pressick is the sex community's international gadabout and Cherry Banana's writer in residence. An award-winning sex writer and blogger, Jon is the editor of the critically-acclaimed Best Sex Writing of the Year, Volume 1. He is a frequent contributor to Cherry Banana with a range of sex-related content and his writing has appeared in numerous magazines and books, as well as all across the Internet. Jon is also a co-host and producer of the long-running sex radio show Sex City. You can keep up with his many sex-related articles here at Cherry Banana or at his own blog, Sex in Words.

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