The Do's and Don'ts Of Sexting

Mobile phones are a ubiquitous part of culture now. They have gone from being a nifty little accessory to a near necessity. You can't go anywhere without seeing some talking on their mobile.

Actually, let's back that up. You can't go anywhere without seeing some using their mobile phone. The telephone part is becoming more and more an add-on as smart phones allow people to communicate non-verbally. Texting rules!

The rise of texting, of course, has been co-opted by the sexual world (like all good technology) making sexting a thing and a popular buzzword. And sexting can be so hot!

Using written words can be much more comfortable for some people when it comes to talkin' dirty. Plus, you can discreetly express naughty thoughts pretty much anywhere and your reader can take a peek and get all worked up on the bus, in a meeting or at their boring relative's house.

The thing is, though, there are some Do's and Don'ts when it comes to sexting that not only help to ensure it is a great experience, but also a consensual and fun one.

DO
Just do it! If you've got someone in your life you like to share sexy thoughts with, drop them a line! As long as you're not breaking any boundaries they have, send a message about what you'd like to do to them right now!

DON'T
Don't sext someone you've just met. Even if you had a great time, even if they seem really into you. Give it a little time before you start scribbling dirty thoughts before their eyes.

DO
Compliment and adore the receipt in the sext. Don't make the whole thing one long porn scenario of lick this, suck this, fuck that, blow that. Flattery and romance make people feel good and sexy!

DON'T
No unsolicited dick pics or any other genitalia for that matter. I specify dicks because guys are the most frequent offenders in this category. You do not have the right to force your junk into someone's eyeholes non-consensually. If this is something you feel will really turn the other person on, then ask first and respect their response.

DO
Make your sexts part of a story involving the two of you - or made up characters! There's a reason why erotica is so popular - people love to read sexy smut. This is a great way to introduce fantasies you have or that the two of you have already discussed.

DON'T
Don't make the fantasy all about you - what you want, what you would do, what you desire and how you would get off. In most circumstances, sex is a two-way street wherein everyone involved wants everyone else to experience pleasure too. If you make the pleasure too one-sided, the reader is less likely to be as turned on as you are.

DO
Triple-check that you are sending your hot sext to the right person. It would be very embarrassing and possibly quite problematic to mistakenly send a sext to your mum, boss, kid's teacher, etc. And if you're someone who plays the field, well, if you want to stay in the game, triple-check.

DON'T
Never, ever share a sext someone has sent you. They are for your eyes only, no one else's. To share these words or images would be a gross betrayal of privacy that could have significant problems for that person.  Sharing someone's sext is a significant dick move, unless you have their consent of course.