Last time, in Anal Sex Tips: Part 1, we got you all wet and ready to take you to the next step of anal fun. You've relaxed, played, touched and licked. If you're on the receiving end you're probably wiggling and writhing in pleasure and wondering "what next and when?"
Well let's just pause for a second. Remember, if this is super-hot for you and all that you need out of ass exploration, then enjoy! Much like vaginal intercourse, there seems to be an idea that you're not really having anal sex unless there is penetration. So not true. Always do what you and your body want. Sometimes you will definitely only want exterior play, because... well...
Shit happens, folks.
Take precautions to prevent poop
While there is a fetish for it, most people aren't keen to involve poop in their play. It is inevitable, at some point, but generally avoidable. Which is why you need to listen to your body. You can feel great pleasure with exterior play, but know full well that if anything ventures inside, then the mood might change.
While on the subject, indeed, encountering a little brown is bound to happen, particularly with anal penetration. To try and reduce the chances, take heed of your diet and evacuate your interior premises a while before sex. You can also use an anal douche and this will help to flush and clean your bowels.
However, even with these precautions, the nature of ass sex can leave skid marks on toys, fingers and penises. To reduce potential squick and embarrassment, try this pro-tip: always use a condom for anal sex. Even on sex toys and even among fluid-bonded partners. Yes, it will offer all of the regular protections condoms do... but they also make post-anal sex clean-up super easy.
If you or your partner do encounter some poop, it is important to remember this is not the end of the world. Many people struggle with the stigma of anal sex, specifically the fear of shit. Reacting badly can negate an otherwise hot and sexy experience and make future attempts difficult.
Okay, now that all of that is discussed and taken care of, let's get down to business. Awesome anal business.
Go slow and don't rush
As in preparing, the key to anal penetration is to go slow - especially if this is your or your partner's first time. (That said, going slow is a good idea every time).
Start off with a finger, circling slowly around the anus, gradually making your way to the centre. As you make you first dip inside, check with your partner or offer your thoughts and feelings. Creep that digit further in, centimetre by centimetre. It will feel really tight! And if you’re the one accepting it, it will be a whole new sensation altogether!
Once the finger is a little way in, stop and get used to the feeling - both giver and taker. If there is potential for pain, this is one time when it is going to happen. Let the taker’s body get used to these new feelings. They may want have the urge to push the finger out. If it is overwhelming, by all means, do it and try again if you both want. Remember, technically, things are going backward here, so the body might be a little confused, even if the libido says go, go, GO!
If everybody feels good and wants more, keep reading Anal Sex Tips: Part 3.