Growing up, some of us were subject to corporal punishment when we were caught doing something naughty. More often than not, that discipline took the form of a swat on the bum. As a matter of fact, schools often doled out backside slaps to regulate their students behaviour. So, is it any wonder that spanking has become one of the most popular types of pain play in the sexual world?
The enjoyment of spanking goes back as far as humans have roamed the world. The buttocks are a sensitive but durable body part, able to withstand abuse while not crippling the person. At the same time, the pain associated with spanking has also been considered quite pleasurable for those who like a little hurt in the sexytimes. This is not abnormal and some cultures have even celebrated the union of pain and pleasure.
Over the years, spanking has become more and more popular. It is a frequent request of sex workers and pro dommes and has carved out a distinct niche in the porn industry. Both DVDs and websites cater to people getting off watching others get spanked.
Talk about it first
If you’re interested in getting into spanking with your partner, the first thing you need to do is talk about it. If you’re interested in spanking their ass, a surprise slap is not the best first step. If it turns out your partner is really NOT into spanking then you’ve likely just ruined a situation and now need to have a much harder conversation. Instead, bring the topic up and tell your partner what you want. If you’d like to redden their cheeks, let them know. If you’d like them to slap your bum, let them know.
In either respect you need to remember that you are discussing a violent act. Even though you aren’t participating in violence, having sex, striking a partner or being hit is a big deal. There are those who definitely won’t be into this kind of action, and that is understandable. It could be triggering to past events, or it could just not be of interest because of the violent leanings.
Take it slowly
However, if you’re both up for it, spanking can be grand. As an act, it is pretty simple: spank ass. Really, though, there is a bit more to it. If you’re the person doing the spanking, don’t go wild on your partner’s ass. If you’re both new, a good way to start is to spank and then rub. Repeat. As hot as the actual spank is, the rubbing of tender skin can also be a tremendous turn on - as well as being soothing. Ease into this new sexual adventure. At the same time, if you like getting spanked, don’t expect you’re going to take 100 spanks and not have to worry about it. Remember, it is an impact and the more you’re spanked the more you’re likely to get bruised. That is why it is a good idea to go easy at first, with light spanks and lots of rubbing.
Incorporate with other sex acts
As your experience grows, spanking can be incorporated into other acts, such as intercourse and oral sex, as well as different sexual scenarios. Spanking is a fantastic addition to role play and BDSM activities. The person being spanked can be punished and in need of a spanking as discipline. A popular (and hot) activity is to have the person being spanked count off the strikes as they happen.
Adding spanking to your sexual repertoire can take you both to new heights of pleasure. But be careful, if you don’t do it right you might have to get punished.