Articles Tagged With Relationships
What you do imagine to be the perfect sexual experience? In your wildest fantasies, how do you think sex is supposed to “happen?”
For most people, the most basic answer is something along the lines of a) Foreplay, b) Main events, c) Orgasm. That is a very general description, but if you follow the depictions created by mainstream (movies, te...
Have you ever fantasized about your partner being someone... different? Oh, you’d still like them to be them... but different. Maybe you’d like some subtle short-term changes, like a different outfit, or maybe you want them to be altogether different. Whatever your present situation, it is only natural to want some variety—even if you love yo...
The world is awash in red and hearts! Naked children are running around with bows and arrows, looking both lovely and menacing, depending on your perspective. Love is in the air, as they say warming the cockles of those in the northern hemisphere and adding an extra sheen of nervous sweat to those in the southern.
Valentine’s Day is coming... ...
We’ve all been there. The Break-up.
Relationships are hard and letting go of that person, by your or their choice can be excruciating. Particularly if there are hard feelings. Break-ups can leave us devastated and and hurt. We prepare all of our lives, while growing up, for the magnificent day when we find the person we love. The fairy tale is...
Q: I am really confused. My husband and I have a fantastic sex life. If you read all of the statistics in women’s magazines like I do, you’ll know that our 4-5 times per week is far above average for people our age. We’ve been together for 15 years, married for 14. We knew we were perfect together right from the start and sex was one of the f...
Somewhere along the way, we got the idea that sex is all about intercourse. Okay, we probably started thinking that way because that was, pretty much, what sex was. Our primitive ancestors were probably all about getting the penis in the vagina because, at that point, sex was mostly about procreation. Having sex probably also left them exposed to a...
The holiday season is a great time to spend time exploring new and sexciting adventures with your partner. There is a general sense of good feeling in the air and it is bound to rub off on the two of you at home—and will hopefully lead to the two of you rubbing each other. Whether you’re in a long-term partnership or newly connected, there is n...
Q:Stop me if you’ve heard this one before: My wife and I just celebrated our 25th wedding anniversary and we’re looking to spice up our marriage. We’ve got a great sex life, very fulfilling and very adventurous. That’s the thing, we’re always looking for more. The other night, she asked me what I thought about swinging. I confessed I hadn...
For some folks, hooking up is just a way of life. A great, sticky fun way of life. They can meet new people, discern with whom they want to have a sexual encounter and then proceed or proceed depending on what criteria they have for whether that hook-up should happen. Some might need a certain physical attraction, a compatible personality or just t...
Warm rays of sun stream through the window. A beautiful haze fills the air as you open your eyes. Slowly the room comes into focus and you blink a couple times recalling the amazing events of last night. You turn your head to see the glowing face of your partner. A smile creeps across your face as your hand moves to them under the covers…
Morn...
There is no denying that one of the sexiest things a couple of people in lust can do is to hit the road and take some time together on a hot and steamy vacation. Getting away from home can do so many great things for a relationship—whether you’ve got the greatest, most loving connection ever or even if you’re feeling troubled in your relation...
Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year and we have a fantastic sex life. Well, we did, until a couple months ago. On top of a lot of different things stressing me out, it started to hurt every time we are intimate. This didn’t happen at all during the first big part of our relationship, but we took a short break for a few weeks...
When you think of the most controversial sexual subjects that seems to pervade all cultures, incest ranks right up there. The practice of closely related people, be that siblings, parents and children or other configurations establishing and maintaining sexual relationships is forbidden around the world. The reasons for outlawing such relationships...
I am really not sure. Is this an easier time to figure out dating and sex...or is it actually harder? Back in the day there was this supposed rule that people didn’t have sex on the first date. Well, we know that was ridiculous because plenty of folks were definitely getting frisky and having fun on their first meeting. Supposed propriety aside, ...
Q: I recently met the man of my dreams. He is successful, funny, smart and super sexy. We met at a club because some of his friends knew some of mine. But nobody was really close enough to really know that much about him (or to tell him that much about me). And so you know, I am in my mid-twenties, moving up the corporate ladder quickly, I love to ...
Oh those millennials!
It seems you can’t go anywhere or read anything that doesn’t involve the plight or scourge (depending how you look at it) of those people born in the mid 1990s who are coming of age in the big bad world.
Missing out?
The thing is, they aren’t coming. Not in the colloquial, sexytime slang sense. While we bem...
Q: I have never experienced anything like this before. I’ve had a few girlfriends, had a lot of different kinds of sex. Some of it has even been pretty kinky! But I’ve never had a girl giggle when I do things to her. At first, it was kind of cute. Surprising, but still kind of cute. But I thought it was maybe just nervousness, since we’d just...
Language is a tricky thing, especially when it comes to sex. It can be hyper-specific and it can also be so vague as to be confusing. If you talk to people from different groups or in different regions, you’ll even find that sex can be broken down into different dialects and sub-sections. It really isn’t easy to navigate and ensure everyone in ...
One of the most important factors in determining whether your relationship is a flash in the sack or a good, long-haul fuck is compatibility. That almost indescribable connection that doesn’t just draw you to another person, but offers the potential for a lifelong connection.
Sometimes, compatibility happens and sometimes it doesn’t. Sometim...
What would you do without your mobile phone? For so many of us, they are in our hands constantly, their glow putting sparkles in our eyes. And, of course, what gets read or seen on our mobiles often puts a little bit of a zip into what we have in our pants.
Just as with any new technology, it didn’t take long for folks to figure out the best w...
Have you ever wondered what the differences are in who you become attracted to sexually and who you are attracted to romantically? Why are there some people you only want to fuck and others you only want to cuddle in your 60s? And is it possible to find someone who falls into both categories?
What defines sexual attractions?
Sexual attra...
Q: My husband really wants us to have an open relationship, but I just don’t know. We don’t have a really great history when it comes to cheating. Okay, he doesn’t have a great history. He has cheated on my 3 times that I know of. Some people wonder why we are still together, but it is simply because I love him. I love how he makes me feel an...
Let’s talk about consent.
I know this space is usually reserved for lots of different sex tips and advice. But trust, understanding consent is one of the most important skills you can learn in today's dating, relationship and sexual world.
Consent has been on everybody’s minds and lips—but it is much more than a buzzword. The amount peo...
One of the biggest fads in the sex toy world these days is the increasing popularity of remote sex toys. While it seems like a very futuristic concept, along with those hoverboards we were promised, sex products that can be controlled across the room or even across the world might make people a bit nervous. Are we entering a new age of pleasure? Th...
Q: I am really at my wit’s end. Like most people, my husband and I used to have an amazing sex life. We could barely keep our hands off each other (and rarely did). We were adventurous, we were always trying new things. We didn’t like them all but we also found many kinks we shared and enjoyed together. But that is all in the past. We’ve been...
There is no denying that many people are helped by having strong, communicative relationships with therapists. All throughout history people have had confidantes, friends and co-workers with whom we could confide and share personal issues with. But has that been enough?
In the 20th century, the idea of taking time to speak with a person trained ...
Q: I really don’t know what to do. I am 19 and in my first serious relationship. Greg is such a wonderful guy, so sweet and caring. He was the first person I have ever wanted to be intimate with. I hadn’t even shown anyone else my naked body before. Unfortunately, that is where the problem began. I was raised in a very natural home with hippie ...
Do you ever get the feeling that you are completely tied to your mobile phone? Can you even remember a time without it? We live in a world that prioritizes the flood of information - be it from media, social media or friends - that has become our lifeline to a new type of connection. And that connection has started to overtake more traditional conn...
Q: We don’t know what to do. My partner and I have been drifting apart sexually over the past half year. We used to have wild and crazy sex all the time! Seriously, we fucked every chance we could get. And it isn’t like we’re some new fresh couple that the thrill has worn off for. We’ve been together for over 10 years and things have remain...
There is absolutely something universal in our sexual experiences, but has been rarely discussed over the last bunch of centuries. It wasn’t always the case, but our newfound and growing comfort with discussing sexual orientation is a welcome change to many years of indoctrination that demanded there was heterosexual and... those who were damned....
Q:We have been in a loving, caring sex-filled relationship for over twenty years. We’ve seen each other through many difficult, stressful times, but we always make it through. I love my wife dearly, but right now we’re in the hardest time of our lives. You see, she’s been dealing with chronic illness and pain from injuries suffered in a fall ...
If you were to believe all of the sex talk spewed out in romantic comedies, you’d think that humans have an awfully pitiful sex life. Nobody is ever good-looking enough, other people are always jerks and nobody is ever satisfied until the stars align and two crazy kids manage to find each other in the midst of all of the rotten other folks in the...
It is sad when relationships that were strong, loving and sexy fall away from these great feelings. One of the main culprits in this relationship challenge is a loss of intimacy. There are many different reasons why this can happen, including stress, financial challenges, kids and so much more. But another sometimes overlooked cause of lagging clos...
There is a time in almost everybody’s life where you discover sex, realize how much you love sex and then want to have sex all of the time. You dream of finding the right person or people who just want to bang and lick and suck and fuck every damn day. More than every day, multiple times! Sex is awesome!
And then...the world happens. Life happ...
Let’s just get something out of the way, right off the bat. Nobody can be horny all the time. Nobody can want sex every single day. Sure, some might want it a lot...but an impossible standard of sexual excitation has been established that is not reasonable. Too many people fear they are not measuring up because their libido is not constantly ragi...
It seems that everything about sex starts, continues and ends with the discussion of orgasm. In that, orgasm is the true pinnacle of sexual happiness and satisfaction. Well, wait, let’s back that up a bit. Male orgasm is the true pinnacle of sexual happiness, with female orgasm more like a really nice to have if you can manage it.
Of course th...
Q: I can’t imagine our question is unique at all, but we really need some help. My wife and I are both around 30, both happy, both sexy. But we’re not having sex. Or, barely having sex. And there’s a great big reason why, well two reasons. They’re 1 and 3 years old and they rule our lives. Yup, the kids are totally getting in the way of our...
Most people think of sex toys as being something to be used when masturbating, as a substitute for the “real thing.” And sure, dildos, vibrators, plugs and the many different products available sure are fun and exciting and a great way to spice up self love.
Pleasure together
On the other hand (the one you’re not using to get off!)...
Everybody knows that Beyonce song “Single Ladies (Put a Ring on It)”, right? It is all about making the commitment to a relationship if you’re really into it by using the most enduring symbol of connectedness—a wedding ring. Many cultures, particularly Western ones, use a wedding ring to signify the everlasting bond of wedded bliss (we’re...
One of the frustrating parts of long-term sexual relationships is when the sexy activities you love and enjoy get a little stale. This isn’t anybody’s fault, this isn’t because you become boring. But it is only natural that we find specific hot and heavy preferences and stick to them because they work. We have fun, we establish intimacy, we g...
Everybody has had at least one in their sexual lives. Whether it was gross or humorous, panic-inducing or easily taken in stride, we’ve all done something in the heat of the moment that causes a complete sense of embarrassment. However, it is how you dealt with it that determines whether the situation was a dealbreaker or not.
Easily the most ...
There comes a time in every relationship when you crawl into bed, look at each other and just curl up and go to sleep. And from that moment on, you’ve reached a new stage in your togetherness.
We are taught, through media and wild hopes and aspirations that relationships bring sex. Lots of it. All the time! And sure, the hope is your relations...
We’ve all been there. Whether alone or with a partner or even a whole group, we’ve all done something completely and undeniably awkward during sex. And we’re not talking a misplaced finger or an unfortunate sound (farts won’t make the cut here, everybody has farted during sex). Truly awkward sex moments can define your day, month or even ye...
Q: Why does everybody have better luck than me on dating sites? Seriously! I have profiles on several different websites and I barely get any messages back. I go through sites and try to make contact but rarely does anybody ever respond. I’m a decent looking guy and profile is a straight-up account of what I am like as a person. I’ve always hea...
Many people believe great sex should always begin with a kiss. Why then are so many people a little deficient in this simple skill?
Because it isn’t a simple skill!
Is a kiss just a kiss?
Kissing is something for which we all have a unique style and technique. Some people are light peckers and others are sloppy open-mouthers. W...
Every year is remembered for certain milestones and phenomena in the sex and dating scene. A few years ago Fifty Shades of Grey had us all bound, and polyamory has certainly enjoyed the attention of many. While there were many other memorable social elements of 2016, the most pervasive might have been the concept of ghosting.
Let’s say you’r...
The start of a new year can mean so many things to different people. New starts and adventures. Changing things from times previous. Even a continuing of all that is going right and maintaining the status quo.
Here we look at the new year as an opportunity to think about sex! Okay, every day is a good day to think about sex, but the new year can...
Q: I am worried that I am ruining my relationship. Don’t get me wrong, I love being with my wife. We have great times together and we do have fantastic sex. I’ve never cheated on her and I have no intention of ever doing that. But, I can’t stop fantasizing about sex with other people. When we’re having sex and when we’re not having sex, I...
Passion is a hallmark of great sex, there’s no denying that. We’ve all had moments of rushing bodies together, a tempest of lust and movement where we have to get our hands on our partner as quickly as possible. Lips come together in a desperate need, clothes fly off as if taken by a tornado and the sex is explosive!
This fueled and fiery se...
Sometimes relationships just don’t work out. Whether the split is amicable or not, it is important to realize when it is time to move along to, hopefully something better. It might suck, but c’est la vie.
However, you have created an intimacy with this person and even if you don’t really like each other anymore, those intimate feelings can...
Q: Would you believe I was recently asked if I did anal on a first date! I couldn’t believe this guy I’d just met online thought this would be ok to ask. Really? We hadn’t actually started anything, but I was pretty shocked. Am I crazy for thinking that anal is NOT a first date thing? I am a little older (42), but this just seems a little ext...
Creating a new relationship is always fraught with challenges and excitement. Newfound love and lust can be such a driving force that other factors might be conveniently pushed to the periphery as good times and great sex take precedence.
But eventually, your little differences are going to catch up and become something that needs to be discusse...
It is an important time for sexual health in mainstream media. With Charlie Sheen’s recent announcement that he is living with HIV, the world has, arguably, its most notable, living figure on which to ponder the meaning of such a medical diagnosis. Sure, there have been other celebrities just as big as Sheen that have been noted to live with HIV,...
There are definitely some things you should not do on a first date:
Don’t make racist comments (well, don’t do that ever)
Don’t make your exes sound like saints on earth you’d crawl back to in an instant
Don’t suggest fisting as an icebreaker
Okay, there are many different sexual activities that could fall into that number ...
For many people, it is hard to move past the nuts and bolts of sex. You’ve gotten into a relationship, you’re both wildly passionate... but it is easy, after a while, to fall into a rut of sexual monotony. Same positions, same locations, same old, same old.
One of the easiest, but most underestimated ways to break out of a bedroom slump is t...
Remember those times when you’d just met your partner? When the two of you would do anything to get your hands, lips, mouths and more on each other? Pull over the side of the road for a quicky? Sure! Spend the entire weekend in bed? Absolutely! Occupy the bathroom at your cousin Nate’s wedding for so long that guests were leaving to go use the ...
The connection was instantaneous. The first moment you locked eyes, both of you knew something was going to happen. Is this love? Lust? A fleeting fascination or the beginning of a life-long relationship?
Whatever it is that is happening, you are going to have to confront the question: when should we first have sex?
Some people are out to fin...
A hard day has just finished. You’ve both made it home, barely limping across the threshold, collapsing in a heap of uncomfortable office wear and bills from the mailbox. Maybe you’re lucky and some kids are there to ask when dinner will be ready too! At this point, sex is probably the furthest thing from your mind. But damn, wouldn’t it feel...
Mobile phones are a ubiquitous part of culture now. They have gone from being a nifty little accessory to a near necessity. You can't go anywhere without seeing some talking on their mobile.
Actually, let's back that up. You can't go anywhere without seeing some using their mobile phone. The telephone part is becoming more and more an add-on as ...
Is it safe to say we’ve all seen that classic image from the film From Here to Eternity? Maybe you haven’t seen the actual movie, but that scene of Burt Lancaster and Deborah Kerr passionately kissing on the beach while waves crash over them is one of the most indelible in film history. It has also, no doubt, inspired many people to want to do ...
