Beginner's Guide to Candles & Wax
Every time we learn something new in life, there is a usually a gateway, or something that introduces us to a new thrill. Some gateways are entirely planned and some are entirely spontaneous. Either way can lead to amazing things. You can discover new sensations in the heat of the moment or you can hear about something new and take it back, ready and planned.
One of the most popular planned gateways in terms of sex is both romantic and just a bit devious. As people expand their sexual interests to BDSM and seek to explore their interest in pain play, one of the most easily intriguing is the pervy potential of heat. This elemental condition is pretty easy to control, but still very effective. And one of the safest and easiest ways to explore that sensation is by playing with candles and wax.
What are candles and wax?
Some folks might only associate candles with lighting up a room for a sexy and romantic night. They do create the perfect glow to a room when you really want to treat your partner to a special, sensual experience. However, there is much more potential to candles and, specifically, the hot wax they produce. Sure, they really make the scene, but they can also really make your partner scream. Scream in ecstasy that is! Specially designed candles dripping on bare skin are an amazing sensual aid that can truly bring out sensational feelings across the skin.
Why should I use candles and wax?
Heat is, for most people, an instant reaction. Touching something too hot will immediately cause you to recoil and you definitely feel that sensation. That pain sensation is closely related to pleasure sensations. When the heat applied is of an acceptable temperature and not too hot, the pain sensation is so close that pleasure usually wins out - especially when the rest of the sexy environmental settings are ideal. The wax will cool quickly, but the sensation will remain a bit longer.
What type of candles are best to play with?
It is important that you do not use regular household candles for hot wax play. Leave them to continue setting the mood. Taper candles burn at a high temperature - too high for most people to enjoy. It is also best to avoid scented candles, for the same reason. Instead, it is best to use specially formulated bondage candles made of plain paraffin wax. It burns at a lower temperature and will be safe for all levels of pain tolerance.
Can candles be used for a hot massage?
Some of the hottest and most romantic candles for wax play are massage candles. They combine a delightful massage oil into their wax that, when melted, can be poured directly onto your partner’s skin. They will get both the sharp pain response that can then be soothed by your attentive hands and soft oil. This is a great way to relax after a hard day and get in the mood for sexytimes - even if you’re feeling anything but sexy. The person getting the massage may get the most attention, but the person pouring and giving will get plenty of hot feelings as well.
How are candles and wax used?
There are a few precautions you need to take before you start playing with hot wax - and these specifically ensure you all stay safe! Be sure your candles are set in a safe place, away from bedding, curtains and even other sex toys. You don’t want a lit candle to be accidentally knocked over when things get a little more wild. It is also essential that you gently test a bit of hot wax on your partner’s skin before going all out with pouring. You both need to be comfortable with the amount of pain the wax will bring to your partner’s body. One or two little drops on the area you will be dripping on and then checking in will ensure your partner can handle the sensation.
Once you’re both ready, slowly drip the wax over the agreed-upon area of your partner’s body. It is important to agree in advance and not go drooling hot wax all over. Some of the most popular and sexy spots are the back and chest. Remember, depending on your partner’s body hair, there could be some more involved clean up. And if your partner is definitely hairy, that clean-up will need to be gentle! If you’re adventurous, hot wax on the genitals can be exhilarating - but it would be a big pain (the less fun kind) to clean up.
One of the sexiest ways to play with hot wax is to simply vary the temperature of the wax as it reaches your partner’s skin. This doesn’t require different candles or extra fire. You can easily adjust the temperature by varying the height at which you hold the candle over their body. The higher up you drop the wax from, the cooler it will be when it reaches the skin. Drop it from closer and it will be hotter. As you and your partner become comfortable and excited, you can experiment with temperature.
How can I buy candles and wax?
By now we're sure you're pretty intrigued and curious about candle and wax play. If you would like to purchase your own candles and wax to experience hot sensations in the bedroom, just head on over to our candles and wax category: Buy Candles & Wax.
Need more help?
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