Anyone who has a dog or cat in their life knows that feeling. You are starting to become intimate with your parther, be it in bed, on the sofa or even in the kitchen. Particularly the kitchen! So, things are just starting to heat up and the sexy tension is building. Passion is in the air and clothes are falling to the floor. Until you get the overwhelming sensation that you’re are being watched. And, sure enough, you are. You make the mistake of opening your eyes during a passionate kiss and see those little eyes staring back at you, followed by a wagging tail or purr.
It can be rather disconcerting trying to have sex when you’ve got a pet at home.
Now, those coitus interuptus stares are just one of the problems when it comes to dealing with having pets and then having a sex life on top of that. A recent survey asked people whether they experienced relating to pets and sex. Fortunately, the stare is not a huge issue for everyone. Although, when a good looks like he’s smiling at you or a cat casts disapproving glances, it can be rather offputting. And don’t even get me started on how startling it is when a cold nose touches your body just as it is warming up.
The responsibility of fur babies
Instead, it seems pets get in the way of sex and intimacy in more basic ways. The primary concern is being too tired have playing with, taking care of or walking your pets. They are wonderful companions that can add so much to your life, but they do rely on your heavily and can be a significant burden. That feeling is often out with the wash when it comes to the love and affection shared, but that to can be someone problematic. Well, if you let it be.
The results of the survey noted a person for whom snuggling her pet seemed more important than being close with her partner. This could just be a simple situation of enjoying the affection of a cat, or it could also point to further concerns in their relationship. It could be a situation of avoidance related to other issues. Certainly, finding solace in the love from a pet could certainly help with dealing with other difficult feelings.
Fringe benefits
On the other hand, let’s not forget that having a pet can be a great way to meet people as well. The classic is taking your dog to the park. Few people, especially dog people, can resist wanting to pet your pooch and ask questions. This is a great way to meet new folks and possibly even start new relationships. You just have to hope that your dogs will get along with each other—particularly when the two of you start to really get along with each other.
But watch that nose!
And here’s one final tip: as best you can, set a boundary of no pets on the bed when you’re having sex. Depending on how your house works, this might be tricky, but it will go a long way to avoiding cold noses on your asshole or a stray claw ripping into your skin.
Jon Pressick is the sex community's international gadabout and Cherry Banana's writer in residence. An award-winning sex writer and blogger, Jon is the editor of the critically-acclaimed Best Sex Writing of the Year, Volume 1. He is a frequent contributor to Cherry Banana with a range of sex-related content and his writing has appeared in numerous magazines and books, as well as all across the Internet. Jon is also a co-host and producer of the long-running sex radio show Sex City. You can keep up with his many sex-related articles here at Cherry Banana or at his own blog, Sex in Words.
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