Think about your mouth for a second. What do you use it for?
Well, you eat with it. You put all manner of food and drink in there and then you mash it all up, swirl it around and manipulate it with your tongue until it is ready to slide down your gullet. Of course, you eat a few times a day.
Another thing is breathing. In combination with your nose, the mouth is the gateway to your respiratory system. Particularly in time of heavy movement and exercise, the mouth is key to getting great quantities of oxygen into your system. So you open up and take in all kind of particles in the air every time you breath.
And when you’re sick? Really sick...to the stomach? You vomit. And that comes out your mouth.
And never mind all of the problems our mouths get us into when we talk.
Teeth! Don’t forget about teeth! Sharp and, hopefully, brushed. Bad breath too?
Let’s stop right there. In so many circumstances, the mouth is kinda considered a playground of gross. We try to avoid other people’s mouths at all costs. Except in one instance: Many people and cultures are completely drawn to kissing.
Lip locks and tongue twists
What is it about intertwining lips and dancing tongues that entrances people so heavily? Kissing in so intrenched in Western culture, in particular, that is has become a significant rite of passage in one’s sexual growth and maturity. Kissing is usually where we start our individual sexual journeys and something we often come back to at the start of new relationships.
Of course, there are many different types of kissing. Many families and friends display affection with little pecks on the lips or cheeks. That is a different type of kiss than those exchanged between lovers, where tongues are coated in saliva and probe the deepest reaches of your partner’s mouth. And while that type of kiss is prevalent in Western culture, it is interesting to note that it is only practiced in approximately 46% of cultures worldwide.
Still a mystery
Science is divided, if not totally baffled, in wondering why some of us like to lock lips. One of the more curious factors revolves around an entirely heterocentric vantage point, so much so as to be laughable. The idea that men like to deep tongue kiss women to transmit testosterone to then increase the woman’s libido would make perfect sense if all humans were undeniably heterosexual. We know that’s not the case and lesbians do seem to enjoy kissing and sex as well. So that idea is out the window!
I suggest this: we kiss to most readily align our our genitals, our hearts and our brains. According to many different belief systems and faiths, these are the core pieces of our being. They represent fertility and desire, passion and power and thought and creativity. And when we can bring all three in sync with those of another person, we can create a network of all of these elements of being.
All with the simple act of touching lips.