What is our fascination with butts? Like, as a society why do we both love and detest everything that has to do with ass? Some people go absolutely bonkers of backends while others think that anything that has to do with tooshies is terrible. Ours is a world that both loves and abhors Kim K’s bum.
There are so many ways we have manifested this contradictory butt relationship. Anal sex is becoming more and more popular, but is still considered dirty and is actually a crime in some jurisdictions around the world. The concept of “booty” goes in and out of fashion making women with large asses completely reviled or the object of all desires.
Backside bias
However, one of the most conflicting relationships we have with ass is an individual one. Well, not really individual, but it is an issue that women are specifically dealing with. The internal body image issues that women suffer from because of society’s conflicting issues with butt size can be extremely difficult for women to deal with. There are so many terrible things said across media (which then permeates down to general attitudes) about large butts, skinny butts, round butts, square butts, flat butts. There are so many different kinds of ass and countless different insults that go along with them.
And with attitudes and opinions come myths and misconceptions, though I am pretty sure I’d never heard this one before. Apparently, there has been a longstanding belief that if women are having sex, the size of their butts can increase. Because of the onslaught of terrible attitudes, hearing this information could be really hard on a woman’s ego.
Does this not just sound like another way to shame or deny women’s sexual agency? Tell them a negative consequence to a pleasurable action. We’re all conditioned to weigh that consequence and make a decision. Ideas of responsibility take over for many folks and if that means missing out on pleasure, then so be it.
But will the potential of a bigger butt actually stop women from pursuing sexual pleasure? Maybe for some? Probably for others? Or hopefully not a chance for most.
Mythbuster
Fortunately, the linked article does answer the myth. And it is extremely important to get the word out that this is just a myth. Your butt won’t get bigger if you have sex. There is no biological evidence of this. Have as much fun and much pleasure, enjoy all the bodies you want and have lots of sex, it will not affect your butt size.
And here’s another action: let’s stop demonizing asses, particularly women’s asses. Instead, let’s celebrate the many different butts out there. And in lauding those luscious asses, let’s focus on the many different pleasures that can be enjoyed through our bums and with other people’s bums. Touching, spanking, rimming, squeezing, slapping, fucking...oh my! Asses are a great part of our bodies and it is time to shout that message in the streets, instead of vitriol.
Jon Pressick is the sex community's international gadabout and Cherry Banana's writer in residence. An award-winning sex writer and blogger, Jon is the editor of the critically-acclaimed Best Sex Writing of the Year, Volume 1. He is a frequent contributor to Cherry Banana with a range of sex-related content and his writing has appeared in numerous magazines and books, as well as all across the Internet. Jon is also a co-host and producer of the long-running sex radio show Sex City. You can keep up with his many sex-related articles here at Cherry Banana or at his own blog, Sex in Words.
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