Q: Okay, I’ve always been confused by the whole bisexual thing. I hate to sound like some kind of intolerant jerk, but I don’t get it. Is it really possible for someone to be attracted to both men and women? I’m really asking! It seems impossible to be equally attracted to both men and women...or in whatever degrees the person claims. Aren’t people who are bisexual really just straight or gay... but temporarily confused?
A: Oh my. This is going to be really hard to hold back all of my rage and contempt at your foolish and ignorant views. But I’ll try. I’ll do my best.
Yes, it is entirely and easy to be fucking bisexual. It is as easy as loving or being attracted to or just wanting to hook up with someone you find hot. That is all it takes to be bisexual—an attraction to both men and women and potentially a desire to put their sexy bits in your mouth or various other parts of your body.
How is this so hard to understand? Why have there been such negative and disgusting stereotypes about bi folks spread throughout the years?
Bisexuals are just gay in waiting. They’ll realize that at some point.
Bisexuals are just fencesitters.
Bisexuals are disease carriers because they fuck so many people.
Bisexuals just can’t make up their minds.
Bisexuals are greedy.
For a sexual orientation that is just about desiring two types of people instead of one, an orientation that just seems to embrace two types of love instead of one, they surely get a massive amount of hate and derision. The hate and derision that you are spewing.
Instead of wondering how it is that bisexuals can do what they do, maybe turn this around to think about whether you might even be bisexual yourself. Can you picture that? Unfortunately, you didn’t provide your own gender or sexual preference, so we can’t get into specifics, but it would be awesome to hear back from you sometime with some more details to find out if maybe, just maybe, you have a little internalized biphobia happening. Hmmm?
Sometimes when people go to great pains to question the existence of someone else’s sexuality, it could be that they are hiding feelings of their own. Is that the case? Do you have some same-sex attraction you’re not able to deal with?