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3 Great Ways To Have Non-Penetrative Sex

3 Great Ways To Have Non-Penetrative Sex

What is the first image that pops into your mind when you think of “sex?” Well, this is going to vary greatly, depending on your individual experiences and sexuality. However, for a great many people, the word “sex” connotes one specific thing: penetrative sex. For the most part, and in most media representations, this means penis in vagina, but it can also mean penis in mouth, penis in ass, fingers in ass, fingers in vagina and, of course, sex toys here, there and every way. The idea being that sex is not sex unless something goes inside of something else.

But that’s isn’t what sex has to be. Sex can be many other amazing activities with outies going in innies. Here are some great ways to have non-penetrative sex.

1. Hands on

It is possible that our hands are actually our most important sexual body parts? Sure, the genitals get all of the attention, with the mouth getting some love too. But chances are, when you first connected with someone, it was your hand that made the, literal, first touch. On the arm, on the leg, perhaps the cheek. This can then extend to a caress and then, maybe a massage. You’ll be entering heights of sensual joy!

Some would not see this as an opportunity to move toward the types of sexual penetration noted above. But it doesn’t have to . Sure, a massage can lead hands to more sensitive areas, but it doesn’t mean you have to move beyond outer touch. Both the vulva and clitoris and the penis can be very receptive to manual stimulation (gee, surprise!). Whether you’re doing it mutually or pleasuring a partner, just using your hands to take a person to the sexual promised land is an exhilarating experience. And it can be a wonderful, full-on experience like this, or it can be a fast and furious reach down the pants. With hand jobs, the possibilities are endless.

2. Frottage

This is a much nicer sounding term “rubbing yourself against another person.” You might also know this as a “dry hump.” Some might associate negative connotations to this idea, something about gross teenage boys. However, the sensual appeal of a dry hump can be intense. There is something almost animalistic to two (or more people) grinding at each with no ability to join their genitals. This is a particularly strong tease when you’re out in a club with some good, sexy music pumping through the speakers.

3. Mutual masturbation

Most of us are brought to think of masturbation as a private thing, something we do alone. Well, jokes on the folks who guided that! It turns out that watching other people pleasure themselves is an ultra hot and sexy adventure. Try sitting across from each other or possibly side-by-side for a bit of skin contact. Watching your partner can be a great form of sex ed—you can see exactly what they like and enjoy. And because of the secretive nature we were brought up with, even if you never touch or penetrate each other, that mutual mastubation session can be very intimate.

About Jon Pressick
Jon Pressick

Jon Pressick is the sex community's international gadabout and Cherry Banana's writer in residence. An award-winning sex writer and blogger, Jon is the editor of the critically-acclaimed Best Sex Writing of the Year, Volume 1. He is a frequent contributor to Cherry Banana with a range of sex-related content and his writing has appeared in numerous magazines and books, as well as all across the Internet. Jon is also a co-host and producer of the long-running sex radio show Sex City. You can keep up with his many sex-related articles here at Cherry Banana or at his own blog, Sex in Words.

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