Cold Is Hot And Hot Gets Hotter

This may be a shocking revelation to everyone (or not), but our bodies are really sensitive! I know, right? We can feel numerous different types of sensation across our skin and deeper. Curiously though, despite this tremendous potential, we aren’t all taking advantage of what our bodies can feel during sex. Instead we typically rely on the old standby of touch...even when there is so much more!

One of the most exciting ways to play with different sensations is to experience the massively different ways temperature can affect our sexual experience. I’m not saying there isn’t a good reason to not think about temperature play—we do all know that changes in cold and hot can be pretty unpleasant in other situations. A hot water can feel great...but then also turn into a shockingly bad experience when the water runs cold. And in sex, we want to maintain the environment settings to ensure the most comfortable experience.

However, hot and cold temperature play isn’t really about the room, it is a localized sensation. Usually people playing with temperature will be isolating certain sexy spots on their partner’s body for supersexytimes.

Heating things up

When it comes to playing with hot temperatures, one of the most popular ways to turn up the heat is by pouring hot wax on your partner’s body. The sensation of the wax slowly dripping down onto their skin is an iconic image of sexual experimentation. It is pretty bold and might be a little too intense for everyone, but it is not only sexy, but wonderfully romantic. Candlelight is intrinsically attached to romance, and it is, of course, essential in this situation.

There are two keys to enjoying hot wax in sex: relaxation and buying proper candles. Hot wax is great in a setting of comfort. Lots of candles. Delightful scents. A comfortable bed. Start your partner off with a massage—just hands on skin. Avoid using massage oils in wax play, we don’t want any potential fires! Once your partner is nice and warmed up, drizzle just a bit of hot wax on their skin. Give them time to feel it and ensure they like it. If all is good, drip some more. Try to drop the wax on extra-sensitive spots like nipples and the ribcage. Hot!

It is also key to buy proper candles that burn at a lower temperature. Do not use regular tapers, but rather massage candles or specific wax play candles. You can control the heat your partner feels by dropping the wax from higher up or close to their body. The closer you get, the hotter it will be.

The real way to chill

On the opposite end of the temperature spectrum is the unique sensation cold can bring to your sex. Most people are familiar with using ice cubes during sex. Running some ice over your partner’s skin can be shockingly sexy. It can also be relieving on a particularly hot day.

There are, however, a couple of other tricks you can do. Instead of using the ice cube directly on their skin, put it in your mouth and work your way around their body. This trick is especially effective in bringing mind blowing new sensations to oral sex.

Another fun way to play with cold is by incorporating your sex toys! Pop them in the freezer for a few hours before you plan to play. Some toys, such as metal and glass dildos, will retain some of the chilly temperatures for some time after you take them out—and can feel so damn good when they go in.

Hot or cold, both extremes are extremely sexy!