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Upper Hand: Tips For Great Spanking

Upper Hand: Tips For Great Spanking

You can't deny that many different aspects of BDSM came crashing into the mainstream with the widespread success of Fifty Shades of Grey. Everybody's been talking about different forms of bondage, punishment and all manner of devices to reach great new potentials in our sex lives. And one of the most fantastic and sensual ways to begin your exploration of BDSM play is through the delicious and delicate art of spanking.

Most people associate a swat on the behind with childhood shenanigans and the corporal punishment that comes with being naughty. You were bad, you got spanked. The funny thing is, it isn’t really that different these days! Impact play is the act of hitting another person for sexual enjoyment - either as the person striking or the person being hit. Such blows against the skin create a different sensation through the nerve endings, and that pain is, to some, very enjoyable. In the case of spanking, that pain can be felt by the person doing the spanking too!

The physical enjoyment of pain is certainly one aspect of spanking that appeals to many. However, it is not the only sensation that pain pervs are after. Spanking is deeply seeded in psychological play; some people get off on the idea of spanking and what it represents just as much as the actual physical pain it produces.

Many people who are into spanking do, indeed, use the scenario of being “bad” and deserving a spanking. Often this situation is coupled with a power dynamic - one partner being Master or Mistress and the other being submissive or a slave. Spanking remains a go-to means of exerting dominance and doling out punishment.

Of all types of BDSM that have taken off with the Fifty Shades of Grey phenomenon, spanking has significantly spiked in popularity. Here are some tips to get a little slap-happy with this action:

 

Communicate properly

Always discuss spanking before whacking someone’s bottom. A slap of skin can be a complete surprise if it's unexpected, and could easily ruin a mood. It is important to get your partner’s consent before engaging in a spanking scene. At the same time, if you want your tush tenderized, be sure to discuss this and establish your limits and desires. There is pain involved here and everyone should be on the same page.

 

Ease into it

Unless you’re told directly by someone with experience in spanking, ease into your scene. If you’re doing the spanking, take time between each strike. Don’t jump in with rapid-fire raps. Spank, rub and breathe. Spank, rub and breathe. If you’re taking the blows, speak up if your partner goes to fast.

 

Rub between spanks

As you redden your partner’s cheeks, take a moment or two after each blow to rub and caress your partner’s ass. This will ensure you go at a good pace and at the same time, a caress eases the pain that’s just been inflicted. It is also an entirely different and delightful sensation as the skin is very tender.

 

Communicate more often

Always, always check in - whether you’re on the top or the bottom. Checking in doesn’t have to be just reporting problems. It should also be questions, reassurances, requests and encouragement!

Spanking is a wonderfully intimate and playful activity with so much potential for new and wild sensations. Kind of makes you want to be naughty, doesn’t it?

About Jon Pressick
Jon Pressick

Jon Pressick is the sex community's international gadabout and Cherry Banana's writer in residence. An award-winning sex writer and blogger, Jon is the editor of the critically-acclaimed Best Sex Writing of the Year, Volume 1. He is a frequent contributor to Cherry Banana with a range of sex-related content and his writing has appeared in numerous magazines and books, as well as all across the Internet. Jon is also a co-host and producer of the long-running sex radio show Sex City. You can keep up with his many sex-related articles here at Cherry Banana or at his own blog, Sex in Words.

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