Hot Bondage With Handcuffs

Symbolism is an important element in sex. There are some images that will instantly turn people on and make them want more and more. Things like fishnet stockings, stiletto heels, firefighters and many, many more. These iconic images represent both an ideal and a desire. They capture the essence of sexual thoughts just by appearing and can make us shake at the knees instantly.

When it comes to sex on the rougher side of things, BDSM actually has numerous iconic elements. Black leather clothes, riding crops and masks instantly spring to mind out of the myriad of sexy images. However, one of the most significant items, because of its cross sexual culture appeal, is the handcuff.

Erotic power of handcuffs

Now, let’s just say, if you’ve had issues with the law, you might not want to consider handcuffs in the erotic category. Fair enough, that is an entirely different situation. It is that execution of authority, though, that brings such a powerful image to handcuffs and makes them so appealing to those who probably haven’t experienced that type of institutional power dynamics.

The fantasy of that power dynamic is actually the primary reason handcuffs are so entrenched in sex—and a great way to enjoy them. Just like other bondage implements, such as rope, handcuffs represent a very specific way to show both submission and forceful confinement. You can play a situation of demure submission, consenting to handcuffs that you cannot possibly escape from. Or, your play can be consensually non-consensual as you forcibly resist, but, ultimately, are confined in.

Handcuffs just need to be rattled to be recognized and their potential can never, really be hidden. It is this recognition factor that gives them such appeal to different types of sexual folks. It makes a lot of sense that handcuffs would appeal to people into BDSM—it practically seems a given. They are used to bind people after all. It also makes sense that handcuffs have become one of the first “gateway” toys for folks who are looking to spice up their sex lives. For most couples who want to branch out and try something new, handcuffs are often one of, if not the first, thing they try.

Pop culture appeal

This appeal and recognition has direct influences from our mainstream media. While some more elements of BDSM are starting to appear in films and television, there are so many instances of characters being handcuffed in bed (though usually for comedic effect). Or hen’s night parties where the bride to be is given handcuffs as a present. These types of uses give people the opportunity to fantasize about the potential of handcuffs because they are seen as sorta, kinda kinky but not super kinky. We’ll just let them learn that experimenting a bit can lead to loving a lot more {wink!}.

Because of this cross sex culture appeal, you will find that some handcuffs have been softened. Straight-up handcuffs are actually very utilitarian and harsh. Cold, hard steel that makes you bend to its needs. Now though, if you’d like to enjoy the potential of being bound but want the cuffs to be a little more accessible and less cold, you can get fluffy handcuffs! These are the staples you’ve likely seen at hen’s night and doe parties. Good for a laugh and a hell of a lot more!

Just remember, if you’re curious about being handcuffed, be sure you are read your rights—and that one of them is the right to orgasm!