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Q&A: Why Does My Girlfriend Giggle When She Orgasms?

Q&A: Why Does My Girlfriend Giggle When She Orgasms?

Q: I have never experienced anything like this before. I’ve had a few girlfriends, had a lot of different kinds of sex. Some of it has even been pretty kinky! But I’ve never had a girl giggle when I do things to her. At first, it was kind of cute. Surprising, but still kind of cute. But I thought it was maybe just nervousness, since we’d just started going out. No, it wasn’t. She still giggles every time I go down on her, while we fuck and it pretty much turns into laughter when she cums! I know, really, that I shouldn’t be bothered by this, but it does make me wonder. We seem to be having good sex, but this kinda makes it seem like she’s laughing at me. It also makes me think that maybe she’s just doing it to cover up that fact I’m not a good lover and that she’s not enjoying herself. I haven’t asked her what it is all about, I’m too afraid. Is all of this just stupid?

A: In a word? Yes. Yes, your whole letter is pretty stupid. First thing first—and this is a basic relationship lesson: if your partner does something that makes you uncomfortable, start a conversation about it. Ask about it. Question. Talk. This is a no-brainer! That you are “too afraid” to ask her about her sex giggles is the true indication that the problem might be you. That you’re “too afraid” to ask your partner if she is enjoying sex, then the problem might be you. If you’re so insecure that you think her sex giggles are just about you, then you might be the problem.

Alright, I’m not going to bash you here as you’re asking for help. Just remember, that communication is the best relationship problem solver that you’ll ever know.

Now, onto your girlfriend’s giggles. I’m going to hazard a guess here: both sex and laughter are tied to the idea of pleasure. When sex is going well, we feel good. When we find something funny or humorous, we feel good. So, we’ve got two different, distinct types of pleasure, but we’re conditioned to think that they should produce two different, distinct reactions. Sex is supposed to make us moan and gasp, and funny things are supposed to make us laugh.

Well, what if the two are more closely related for some people? What if, for your partner, laughter and giggling make more sense as outward expressions of sexual pleasure because moaning and grunting don’t make sense for her?

I’m not saying this isn’t unusual. We definitely are brought up to believe certain sounds are for certain activities. However, is it something to get all hung up about? Is her different reaction something that makes you not want to have sex with her? If it is, if you can’t rest or can’t be sexually aroused because she giggles and laughs during sex, then you might want to reconsider the overall compatibility of your relationship.

That is no laughing matter.

About Jon Pressick
Jon Pressick

Jon Pressick is the sex community's international gadabout and Cherry Banana's writer in residence. An award-winning sex writer and blogger, Jon is the editor of the critically-acclaimed Best Sex Writing of the Year, Volume 1. He is a frequent contributor to Cherry Banana with a range of sex-related content and his writing has appeared in numerous magazines and books, as well as all across the Internet. Jon is also a co-host and producer of the long-running sex radio show Sex City. You can keep up with his many sex-related articles here at Cherry Banana or at his own blog, Sex in Words.

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