No offense to fans of The Quickie, but who here agrees that Foreplay is the absolutely best part of sex? All of that tease, all of that touch, all of that build up? This is the stuff that intimacy and connection are made of. These are the moments of slow and sensual enjoyment. These are the moments when you truly learn what you partner likes, loves and goes out of their mind for.
One quick word on terminology: foreplay is a fairly limiting term in respect to sexualy. It implies that everything before penetrative sex is somehow not sex. Of course, this is not a valid description for those who don’t participate in penetrative activities. So, foreplay, as a term, might not resonate with some. However, I hope these tips, whether your play is a main course or an appetizer will help with your sexytimes.
Foreplay begins with anticipation and that anticipation is great to splinter off into one of two moods: relaxation or tension. Sexual play is fantastic when you go off into either direction!
Foreplay as relaxation
With relaxation, everyone involved is loose, comfortable and warm. You might have candles illuminating your space and incense floating through the air. Relaxed foreplay is ideal in the bedroom where you can lounge and spread out on the bed. Take up space and stretch your muscles.
Foreplay as tension
Tension, on the other hand, shouldn’t be taken in the negative context. Tension in sex is the growing need and desire, the burning passion that strengthens with each passing moment. Sexual tension is great to built in public or places it is difficult to touch your partner. With tension comes tease and the continual increase of flirting.
The key thing to each of these foreplay situations — and all others — is the emphasis on a slow build. Compliments and sexy talk can be used throughout, but not in a non-stop barrage. Have fun conversations with a little spicy language sprinkled in here and there.
Different types of sexual exploration
The same goes for sexual touch. Whether you’re both spread out in bed, naked and warm or both working furiously at a table trying to meet deadlines, start foreplay off with light and simple touches. Focus on the parts of the body that are always exposed: hands, forearms, neck, cheeks. Give little touches and kisses while still talking. As the moments move on, bring your sexy talk and small touches together at the same time.
If you’re in bed and naked, it must be hard to resist moving your hands all over your partner’s body — and you shouldn’t! But don’t go quite everywhere yet. Glide your hands everywhere but their sexy parts. Light, fingertip caresses. Watch the goosebumps rise on their skin. Sexual relaxation is all about the available opportunity, but taking time to enjoy and not rush.
If you are still wearing clothes and looking to continue that tension, do the opposite! If consent is clear, touch your partner in the most intimate of places. Feel for hardness or wetness. Plant a kiss on your partner’s neck from behind and stroke her nipples. Stretch your foot out from under the table and massage his cock with your foot. Sexual tension is about the direct wanting, but not getting.
Eventually, in both instances, you’re going to breakdown and move things along... but be sure to enjoy the delicious foreplay course of sex while you can!