Let’s start of #AnalAugust with a bang - literally! Anal sex has emerged as a fantastic and fulfilling sexual adventure that has gained significant popularity in recent years. Instead of the fear and trepidation folks used to feel in the past, people are now embracing anal pleasure and penetration for what it really is: another way to enjoy amazing sexual satisfaction.
Why has anal sex become so popular? Many reasons! First and foremost is the better understanding of our anatomy through sex education and just how much pleasure the anus holds. Our backdoors hold an immense number of nerve endings that, when properly stimulated, set off all kinds of pleasure centres in our bodies and brains. Also, the stigma around anal sex has been dropping—for everybody. Really, our asses are one of the more equal parts we have across all of our bodies. Women have asses, men have asses, transpeople have asses, and for the most part, our asses act and react in very similar ways. And these days, people of all different identities are getting into some bum-lovin’—whether with penis or strap-on.
While we’ve been figuring anal pleasure out on our own for years, the influence of porn on our anal habits cannot be denied. Porn producers embraced anal as an integral part of scenes in the 80s and 90s and now most mainstream porn includes some amount of ass exposure.
Sure, this is great to expose people to a new form of pleasure, but most porn treats anal sex like an MMA fight. If you try anal like performers do in porn, you’re likely going to get hurt. These folks are professionals and are very good at their jobs. They can twist into wild positions and take cocks and dildos hard. You can’t expect to ass fuck like them right off the bat.
Instead, check out these great anal sex positions that feel fantastic for anal amateurs and experienced folks alike.
Don't Forget Foreplay
Before we get into ass sex positions, let’s take a moment to remember that anal sex is best served with a significant amount of preparation and foreplay. Gentle and slow fingering and rimming, building up as pleasure intensifies are great ways to open the backdoor. Combine that with clitoral or penis stimulation and everybody will be soaring. Be sure to have your favourite lube on hand—and always be generous in applying it. And it is critical that you both communicate your needs and concerns before, during and after anal sex.
The cowgirl/cowboy is the best position for those trying anal sex for the first few times. The person being penetrated has all of the power and control to establish the speed and strength of penetration. They can go as slowly or quickly as possible, and can also remove their body as easily as possible if there is discomfort. But, don’t worry, riding isn’t all about pain prevention. It also feels fantastic! Rocking front to back or up and down allows the penis or dildo to rub against many interior hot spots! And let’s remember that your penis or vulva and clitoris are fully exposed for your partner to pleasure at the same time.
Even though we’ve gained a better understanding of anal sex through sex education, it is understandable that some folks benefit from increased care and cuddling when being penetrated anally. It is a big deal for some folks and giving that care is paramount over sexual pleasure. Spooning is a great way to experience anal sex while at the same time being very intimate. The big spoon is going to be guiding their penis or dildo in, and can whisper assurance and caring thoughts around their partner at the same time. Spooning also also the most skin to skin contact of sex positions making it a great way to be closing before, during and after.
You were probably thinking doggy style would be the top of the list for anal sex positions. It is the one most commonly depicted. And yes, of course, it is amazing for anal. However, unless you and your partner are very close in height, doggystyle isn’t the easiest ass sex position and is best for folks who have already gained some experience and understand each other’s bodies. But that said...once you are ready for it, doggy style is fantastic for ass fucking! Visually stunning and internally amazing, the penis or dildo will touch sensitive spots inside you never knew existed. When you’re ready for it, doggy style will set off ass fucking fireworks!